37 posts tagged “eldest son”

Thanks to everyone!  Your understanding and support are wonderful.

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My problem yesterday was that I was off my guard.  I didn't think of the movies as a danger zone. 

Some environments and activities, we know they're trouble.  Say, shopping at Meijer's -- you could not pay me enough to do grocery shopping with E.S. in tow.  (Believe me -- I've tried it before and it's just not worth the mental and emotional anguish.)  So we either just don't take him to those, or we're mentally prepared for the Stop-Drop-&-Roll treatment (which in this case means, Stop what you're doing, Drop everything, and Roll on out of there). 

But he's gone to countless movies over the past 3 years, and never had a problem before. 

Talking it over, D.H. and I think we made several errors in judgment.

(1) We were a little worried about going to a new Pixar movie on opening weekend.  In retrospect, we should have listened to that little worry.  The theatre was more crowded than they usually are when we go.

(2) We should have picked a row where there was no one in front of us, to be bothered by E.S. fidgets. 

(3) One of us should have taken E.S. in hand, quietly, the first time the Guy turned around.  We shouldn't have assumed that E.S. would respond appropriately to the Guy's request. 

(4) We should have had a little "review" of consideration-for-other-movie-goers ground rules, before we went in.  It would have benefited all the kids, really.  Often when we go to a public place like this, it helps a lot to have a little chat ahead of time about expected behavior and consequences for misbehavior.

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I think that normally movies aren't a problem for Eldest Son b/c he gets so engrossed in the screen world.  I think the problem here stemmed from the fact that the Guy jolted him out of that world with his first request to stop the kicking.  Up to that point, I'm quite sure E.S. was not even aware of his swinging legs, or that his feet would bother the Guy. 

All of a sudden, he's jolted out of the movie world and criticized for something he didn't even know he was doing.  Yes, the Guy was calm-but-firm, polite.  I'm still not saying the Guy did anything wrong. 

Doesn't matter; E.S. would see it as criticism and suddenly get all anxious and defensive.  He was already excited about going to the movie, and whether the excitement is good or bad, they both pile up inside him until he blows his stack. 

The rigidity of Asperger's:  The harder you push Eldest Son, the harder he digs in his heels.  But, faced with an apparently defiant child, an adult's instinct is to push harder, to insist even more firmly that the kid toe the line.  But, the harder you push E.S., the harder he digs in his heels.  And the harder you want to push him to obey.  And the harder he digs in his heels.  And...

So when the Guy asked him AGAIN to stop kicking, E.S. dug in his heels harder.  And then when D.H. said to him sternly about how he had to move, or leave, he dug in his heels even harder still. 

And, because he hadn't MEANT to do any of it and he was now getting worried and anxious about having to leave the movie which he didn't want to miss... BOOM!  He couldn't contain his internal pressure, and started howling.  Which, of course, led exactly TO the thing he was most afraid of, being taken out and having to miss the rest of it.

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The problem with E.S. is, at the moment when his behavior is the most annoying to those around him, that's when he most needs them to be patient and keep their cool with him.  When adults get angry at him, that makes it harder for him to get back on track. 

Other kids, you use "The Voice" or give "The Look" that says, "You're treading on thin ice, buster, and you'd better shape up" -- maybe it works.  They back down.  They bow to the adult's authority and want to avoid making an adult angry with them.  They do shape up. 

With E.S., it backfires.  Believe me.  It's the Negative Spiral of Doom, and I've experienced it myself countless times.  Even though I KNOW this, sometimes I still can't help getting sucked in. 

Signs of adult anger make him anxious. When he gets more anxious, he gets more rigid and obsessive and perseverative.  When he gets rigid and obsessive and perseverative, he CAN'T let go of whatever it is.  He really, truly CAN'T.  No matter how irrational it may be.  ("I can't SEE as well from there!" -- 3 seats to the left)  You've got to break him out of that negative loop, and you can't do that with an angry voice, because an angry voice just adds to his anxiety, and that just makes him more rigid and obsessive and perseverative, and even LESS able to let go of it, and...

The Negative Spiral of Doom.

The harder you push, the harder he digs in his heels. 

What it's kind of like is, well, it's kind of like Windows crashing. 

"A Fatal Error Has Been Detected." 

Only thing left is to reboot.

With E.S., rebooting requires being removed from the situation. 

So, D.H. stepped up and did it. 

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Last night as he was getting ready for bed, E.S. asked me to tell him what happened in the rest of the movie (which made me want to cry again). 

So I think one of us is going to take him back to try again.  Probably D.H., since he missed it too.  Just the two of them.  When Eldest Son is one on one with an adult, he's much more easy to manage.  Plus, we'll keep in mind our 4 lessons learned (above). 

Tomorrow we have a big meeting at his school to go over his IEP (Individual Education Plan).  This will be a help going into next year.  Although, this year's teacher has really been pretty awesome.  But we want be sure we capture whatever her magic pixie dust is, and hand it off to next year's teacher.  In a bottle with a nice little bow on it. 

Phew.

Okay.  'Nuff about this.  Let's move on. 

Don't ask me why; the kid's been to plenty of movies in theatres before and never had a problem.

Yes, he took all his meds today just fine. 

But, just got back from an "Asperger's moment" at a showing of the new Pixar movie "Up," and it's still upsetting me.

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Eldest Son was wiggling.  He can't help it; he's fidgety.  Apparently he kicked the seat of the guy in front of him; apparently he did it enough to bug the guy.  Guy's a grown-up, a dad; his own wife and girl are there too.  Daughter seems about the age of Eldest Son.

Guy turns around and says to Eldest Son, politely, "Will you please stop kicking my seat?" And we all think that's the end of it.

('Course not!)

5 minutes later, Guy turns around and says AGAIN to Eldest Son, "Will you PLEASE stop kicking my seat??"

D.H. intervenes, saying strictly to E.S., "You need to move, or else you're leaving."

E.S. goes rigid in his seat and starts to ask loudly, "Why do I have to move?"

I try to play peacemaker, saying, "Just come over here with me" (to where there isn't anyone in front of us) "I'll move too."

E.S.:  "NO!  I can't SEE as well from there!"  (3 seats to the left.)

D.H. (to me):  "He has to move, or else he's leaving."

E.S. (bursting into loud, shocking, sobs):  "NO!  Why do I have to move?  I didn't do it!"

But I get him to move.  I sit down with him, 3 seats over.

Crisis averted?

Heavens no!

E.S. cannot stop sobbing.  Loud, heart-rending sobs.  I hiss, "E.S., you HAVE to be quiet, or you will have to leave!"

E.S. (loudly, sobbing): "I WILL be quiet, if you'll just tell me why I had to move!"

Me, whispering: "I'll tell you afterwards, but you need to be quiet, RIGHT NOW!"

E.S. (sobbing):  "I CAN'T!"

(It's true, when he gets like this, he can't.)

Me:  "Just try!  Please!  I don't want you to have to--"

Mom from row in front of me gets in my face:  "I know he's upset, but my daughters can't hear the movie, and--"

Me:  "I understand, but my son has Asperger's, and--"

Other Mom:  "I understand, but my daughters--"

D.H. (from further down the row):  "He has to leave, now!" 

D.H. grabs E.S. and hustles him out. 

I slink over to sit between my two normal ("neurotypical" or NT) children for the rest of the movie, weeping -- silently.

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What do you do when you have an eight-year-old who looks like a ten-year-old and talks like a twelve-year-old -- and can't manage himself in a movie theatre as well as his four-year-old brother?

Did the guy in front of us have the right to watch a movie without having his seat kicked?  Yes, of course.

Did the mom in front of us have the right for her daughers to watch the movie without being disturbed by my son's howls?  Yes, of course.

Did someone have to remove E.S. from the situation until he could calm down?  Yes, of course -- and since I didn't do it when it became necessary, D.H. had to.

Was there some way we could have handled the situation so that my eight-year-old child could have seen the rest of the movie just like all the other kids?

What should we have done differently?

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Guy no doubt left the theatre thinking he was in the right, thinking, or perhaps even saying out loud to his fam, "Can you believe that mom wouldn't take that rotten kid out of the movie theatre?"

Guy and Mom in Front of Me were probably congratulating themselves on the calm-but-firm way they stood up for their rights to that over-indulgent mama who was letting her kid get away with murder.

Other parents probably were thinking, "How dare that noisy brat ruin the movie for the rest of us!"

Other parents may have said to their kids later, "No kid of mine's ever gonna behave that way!"  (I have had one boy innocently report to me that his parents said that to him, concerning Eldest Son's behavior.) 

And they're probably right, none of their kids WILL behave that way, and lucky for them.  But instead of patting themselves on the back for what good parents they are, in reality, they need to realize it's because their kids are NT.  After all, my NT kids did fine, too. 

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Agreed -- Eldest Son had to leave the theatre, at the point where he couldn't keep quiet.  I KNOW that when he crosses that line, he really, truly CAN'T help it -- and I should have let D.H. take him out in the first place, before he started howling.  Maybe he could have gotten it together in the lobby and come back in. 

If an epileptic kid went into seizures in the theatre, they'd take him out -- he can't help it. 

If a diabetic kid got low-blood-sugar-y and started to convulse, they'd take him out -- he can't help it. 

I should have taken E.S. out myself.  I should have let D.H. take him out.

But I didn't want him to miss the movie, either. 

I really, really wanted for him to just move to another seat and calm down, and watch the rest of the movie. 

He was almost there -- I truly do BELIEVE he was almost there -- when Mom in Front of Me had to stand up for her daughters' rights.  (Can I blame her, really?  If all my kids were NT, wouldn't I do the same?)  But then it was Game Over. 

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So, everybody -- can you please have a little more compassion if you see something similar happening? 

Do you really believe that a kid that big would behave in such a way as to have to leave a movie he really wanted to see -- if he could help it? 

Do you really believe that a parent who cared enough to take all her kids to a movie like that would allow him to behave that way if there weren't extenuating circumstances?

Remember, we paid money for the tickets, too.  And 2 of our 5 family members missed half the movie.

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This is our life.  Always on edge, never sure when or where, exactly, the explosion will occur -- just knowing that sooner or later, it will.  And, when it does, neither we as parents nor our child will be viewed with compassion by those around us, but rather, will be judged.  And judged harshly.  Will be blamed.    

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Dear fellow movie-goers:  Y'all had to put up with a couple of minutes of it in the movie theatre, then D.H. obligingly removed the problem from your midst. 

We live it. 

We eat, sleep, and breathe it.  Literally. 

Every meal we eat as a family is influenced by Eldest Son's rigidity, his obsessiveness, his socially inappropriate outbursts.  Every evening is shaped by his inability to turn off his restless mind and just go to sleep -- like our NT kids do.  Every picnic, every party, every school play, every play date (not that there are many of those), every visit to a playground, every family get-together -- we live it. 

Waiting for the explosion that, sooner or later, WILL come.  We cannot escape it.

Eldest Son lives it too. 

Everyone's always mad at him.  He's always getting hauled off from one thing or another because of his outbursts.

Do you think he likes that?  Do you think that's fun for him? 

He lives it too.  He can't escape it either.

It's in his head.  It's who he is.  He can't escape it either.

And doesn't he have rights too?

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So what SHOULD we have done differently?  So that Guy's rights and Mom in Front of Me's daughters' rights, AND Eldest Son's rights could have happily coexisted? 

Should have hauled him out sooner -- check.  But then that might have precipitated the very explosion we were trying to avoid.  (Believe me, that's a frequent occurrence.)

Should we have him wear a scarlet A on his head, and explain to everyone around us exactly what it means to be a kid with Asperger's?  Or is it none of their stinkin' bidness?  Or does it become their bidness when his neurological problems disturb their peace? 

(By the way, we've avoided talking to him in terms of the "label."  He knows he's different and finds some things hard that come easily to others, but we've never sat him down and said, "You have Asperger's and this is what it means."  Maybe we should and we intend to later -- but his therapist agrees that now is not the time, yet.  -- He was too wound up to have noticed when I whispered it to Mom in Front of Me.)

In retrospect, I wish I had asked E.S. to sit on my lap or something the first time Guy turned around.  But, at that time I already had Littlest Brother on my lap -- he had been burying his face in my shoulder at some scary part, I no longer remember what.  So I was preoccupied and didn't pay enough attention to the incident until it was too late.

When your oldest child is a special-needs child, and your younger children are still young enough to be needy, whose needs do you drop?  You're juggling these 3 little eggs, which one do you let go splat on the floor?   

Today at the movies, it was Eldest Son.

20 Questions with Eldest Son:

Dear Husband: "Person, Place, or Thing?"

Eldest Son:  "Thing!"

Me:  "Is it alive or dead?"

E.S.:  "Dead!"

Me:  "Was it ever alive?"

E.S.:  "No."

Me:  "Is it bigger than a TV?" ("bigger than a breadbox" being, like, so totally irrelevant these days)

E.S.:  "Yes."

D.H.:  "Is it in Florida?"

E.S.:  "No."

D.H.:  "Is it in Michigan?"

E.S.:  "No."

D.H.:  "Is it in the United States?"

E.S.:  "No."

Me:  "Is it on the Earth?"

E.S.:  "No."

Me:  "Is it orbiting the Earth?"

E.S.:  "No."

Me:  "Is it orbiting anything?"

E.S.:  "No."

D.H.:  "Is it in the Solar System?"

E.S.:  "Yes!"

Me:  "How can it be in the Solar System if it's not orbiting anything?  Everything in the Solar System orbits something, even if it's only the Sun."

E.S. (smugly):  "Well, it doesn't!"

D.H.:  "Is it the vacuum of space?"

E.S.:  "YES!"

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Yah, he doesn't exactly do your typical "cow," "truck," "Grandma," or "swimming pool."

One of his other "things" was "Electricity" which was also pretty tough to guess; a "person" was "President Obama," but I got that one right away. 

On the other hand, I stumped Eldest Son pretty good with "Mickey Mouse," though we had just left the Shrine of the Mouse Cult, because Mr. Literal couldn't make the leap to a "person" who wasn't a human being.

Heh.  Never a dull moment! 

So that vacation was good, and just what we needed.

We hadn't made the reservations yet when I lost my job, and at that time I wasn't convinced we should spend the $$, but Dear Husband insisted.  We needed a break, he said.

And he was right. 

It was great.  Exhausting and occasionally overwhelming, but overall, just what we needed.

We drove.  I was terrified of how awful the drive might be, but actually the kids were wonderful little travelers.  (In-Car DVD Player, I love you!!). 

Littlest Brother was stressed by the travel, breaking out in hives and scratching himself raw until we hit on the right combination of oral Benedryl and Gold-Bond Anti-Itch Creme.  But once we got there, he settled down and the good-time endorphins cancelled out the stress chemicals, and the hives went away.  Until we started the drive home... but this time we spotted the signs and administered Benedryl right away and the problem went away.

Now the only question is, whether Eldest Son can reinsert himself into regular school life after such a hedonistic pleasure jaunt.  The last few years, he's had trouble with that; incidents of the week following are what led up to our visits to the child psychologist.  This year, we've tried to prepare him better and we've had a little talk about our expectations, so I'm crossing my fingers in hope that it might go better...

While we were gone, the report was mailed to us from the extensive (and expensive) neuro-psych testing Eldest Son underwent about a month ago.  Welp, pretty much confirmed everything we already knew.  Pretty expensive second opinion, but, on the whole, I think it's good.  Shows we're on the right track.  Now we know for sure what we're working with, we can make some definite plans to help him, and we've already begun to do so. 

Next week we have a meeting at the school to develop a "504" plan, the first step in documenting the accomodations Eldest Son will need next year in order to achieve his full potential at school.  His teacher this year has done an excellent job, whether consciously or unconsciously, in providing him much of the support he needs, so mainly we need her to identify what those were, and write them down as guidelines for his teacher next year.  We also need to communicate those to the Specials teachers, who have consistently been more likely to call me with complaints about his behavior.  He also may receive some pragmatic-language therapy (i.e., training in non-verbal cues that he's not catching effectively now), and maybe a "lunch-bunch" supervised by the school counselor for social-skills practice.  We've also begun to explore private social-skills training playgroups for him to join over the summer.  Next week we also have a meeting with a therapist who organizes and leads those groups.

So stuff's gettin' better. 

And me, I feel like much less of a walking open wound than I did before this trip.  Broke me out of my own negative loop.  I no longer feel like my intestines are trailing around on the ground for all and sundry to step on.  Instead I feel cleaned up, tucked back in, sewn up, and on intravenous antibiotics to fight infection.  Still get twinges, still have to recuperate, still have to move carefully so as to avoid pulling the stitches out.  But, clearly on the mend.  Healing is possible.  Likely, even.  Resumption of normal activity levels in the foreseeable future. 

So, Dear Husband was right.  We needed that.  (He really is a pretty great guy.)

:-) 

This is what made the most lasting impression on Precious Princess after last night's adventure.  At least, this is the first thing she said about it to Grandma when it got to be her turn to talk.

Later, after we got home, she had to write it all down right away. (I think she'll be a journal-writer when she gets older; I recognize that impulese.)  She made herself an illustrated book about it, using staples to connect the pages. 

She wrote it all down again during free play at school today.  In our school district's kindergarten and throughout much of first grade, they let the kids use "natural language" while they are learning to sound things out.  Now in second grade, Eldest Son has spelling words that he has to learn to write correctly every week.  He also is learning correct punctuation.  But not in kindergarten.

So, here is Precious Princess's best effort to sound out and write down her adventure:

I WOTID TO GO ON THE EVADRE   THE EVADRE GOT SUK   THE EVADRE MAD A LOD NOS AND IT WUD NOT SOTP.  WE WR SUK FOR A LOLN TOM  FONNULIE THE MCNIC UPID THE DUR.  WEN WE GOT OWT THR WR ULOT UV PPUL.

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(ps - just for Punkinshell - Princess strenuously resists the idea that words should be written with lower-case letters...)

It was the biggest adventure of the evening at our church, and there were a lot of people waiting around to see how things turned out.  Dear Husband was stuck in the elevator along with all three of our children, an elderly lady in a wheelchair, and her friend who was pushing the chair.  They were in there about half an hour. Nice that the elevator company apparently has people in the area who are on call to rush out at 7:30 PM and fix a problem right away.  He was the hero of the evening, for sure!  And he had a mustache. 

Eldest Son's assessment as soon as he got out:  "It was boring." 

(Though, he did have quite a lot more to say about it to Grandma on the phone, later...)

:-)

Littlest Brother's pronouncement was, "I never, ever, ever want to go on that elevator again!"  (Though using phonetically spelling, it would go something like this:  "I nevo, evo, EVO want to go on dat ewevado again!")

:-)

Thank goodness none of them had to go potty!  I carefully refrained from asking, lest the power of suggestion rear its ugly head...

Oh, how did I manage to escape this fate?  Well, we had been leading a class for the younger kids (age 4 thru 2nd grade).  At the end of the class, our kids were getting wild, so Dear Husband decided to take them out to the playpark while I waited in the classroom for the other kids' parents to come and retrieve them.  Precious Princess in particular, but really all of them, love to go on the elevator at our church, even though it's only one flight of stairs.  (Well, not any more!  Dear Husband thinks they're cured of that, at least for a while...)  Needless to say, they did not get to play on the playpark after all, and they were wired on adrenaline for an hour after we got them home.  Late bedtimes all around.

Cheers.

Oh, PS --

The other day the kids evolved a plan to run for Kid President of the House. 

Eldest Son's pitch went like this:

"If you vote for me, I'll love you more!"

Heh-heh. 

Now how did the little rascal zero in right to the heart of every politician's campaign promises?  Stripped of airy rhetoric, isn't that what they're all saying?

:-)

Recent cutenesses from Littlest Brother:

"We've got cwime to fight." Said during a (brief) pause in play with Big Sis, with a serious look and tone, the subtext being, "I don't have time for idle chit-chat, woman!"  (that was the part that was cute, obviously, but you'll just have to imagine it)

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"I'm not David, I'm Super DD Boy!  And I have TEN superpowers." (Both hands outspread to show how many.)

"Oh, yeah?  What are your superpowers?"

"I can't tell you.  It's a secwet."

Obviously beyond my clearance level.

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"I'm not David, I'm a tall, daowk stwanger."  (Where'd that come from???)

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So, okay, came up with a new concept for my contest story. 

Although, I DID in fact manage to cut the other one down to 3500 words (YEAH!) and feel I'm still saying most of what I meant to say.  Not sure it's ready yet; think I need to cut more out of my favorite section (snif!) and put in a bit more texture & backstory in a few other places where I cut too deeply.  But honestly, I'm really pretty amazed at how well the story survived its crash diet.  Hm.  There's a lesson there...

But, I think I MAY do better starting with a fresh concept and writing UP TO the 3500-word limit... rather than taking 10 lbs. of s*** and trying to stuff it into a 5-lb. bag. 

Or what the heck, maybe I'll finish both and enter both.  (This contest, you can enter as many stories as you like, and last year's 1st and 2nd place prizes went to the same author -- not me, as regular blog visitors will recall.)

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Took all the kids to see "Bolt" yesterday at the dollar theatre.  (Economies, y'know.)  That was a great movie.  Highly recommend it to families with young kids.  Even Eldest Son the dog-and-all-pets-hater thought it was great.  The whole film-within-a-film thing was a bit too confusing for Littlest Brother to sort out, though.  But he liked it anyway.

Took Precious Princess to see the local High School Musical of Disney's "Beauty and the Beast" today -- she went in her Belle dress.  Kids in costumes got a goody bag, a pleasant surprise.  She was great, and the performances were great -- especially the girl who played Belle.  (Though Beast, Gaston, LeFou, and Lumiere were no slouches either.)  Tell you what, that girl has a mega future in musical theatre, should she desire it.  MEGA.  Her voice is strong, sweet, and crystal clear, throughout her whole range.  And she has a great range.  She didn't miss a single note, not even a tiny bit off pitch, and never flubbed a line either.  (Believe me, the musical is close enough to the DVD that we'd have known if she did.)  She had great stage presence and her emotive performance was flawless too.  Her look and hair were perfect for Belle, too.  It was almost scary.  (And the weirdest thing is, she's also my mother-in-law's piano student.  small town life, heh.) 

Precious Princess, and all the little kids, were welcomed up on stage afterward to meet the cast and check out the set, which rocked.  She totally dug it.  Now she wants to take acting lessons.  Hm.  Well -- why not?  We've got the summer coming up, and she could take acting lessons then if she still wants to.  (She's definitely been a drama queen around here lately, I'll tellya...)   

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ANND, Eldest Son has his concept for his science fair project down.  Now just have to fill in the entry form, and get the boy some library books...  Volcanos, and not just any volcanos, but (1) Mount Vesuvius & the destruction of Pompeii, (2) Krakatoa, the explosion heard round the world, and (3) the Yellowstone Supervolcano, which is overdue for a major blow-out, just FYI. 

(Yeah, that whole bad economy thing?  Auto industry going belly up, yada yada?  Terrorism, even?  Octomom?  Eh -- may not need to worry about it.  Sometime between now and 10,000 years from now, the Yosemite Supervolcano is going to cover the western United States in dust and ash, and destroy Western Civilization, possibly human life on Earth.  And just because we'd LIKE to believe it will be at the far end of the scale, that doesn't MEAN it couldn't be tomorrow.)

(And you people say we don't need to colonize the Moon!  Sheesh!  Where ELSE are the people going to come from who repopulate the Earth after it's wiped clean???)

Okay, where was I?  Oh yeah.  Science fair project.  Got a concept.  Just need to execute.

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On to the next week!  Hyah!  *crack* 

So I've got 3 pieces "out there" now, so we'll see.

I've got another one that I think is close.

I've finished reverse-engineering my favorite author's latest novel -- just to learn how the master did it.  From that exercise I've boiled down an outline or template of novel-writing.  (Well, it worked for her...)

Now I'm going to take a couple of my bigger pieces (that seemed to want to balloon out well beyond the 5000-word limit of most short stories, and try as I might, I couldn't stuff them back in) and try to map them onto this template.  And then see if I can't develop a working outline and then crank out a real novel or two.  Or three.  Or four. 

And moreover, I've had a few encouraging conversations over the past few days from people who want to try and hire me, one way or another (either as direct staff or as contract employee thru my marketing communications firm).  And in the end nothing may come of those efforts, but just having those conversations brightened my life considerably. 

And Eldest Son made a very responsible choice the other day, for which I was quite proud of him.  He's not supposed to chew anything hard and crunchy or soft and sticky, lest he break his appliance (rapid palatal expander).  So when the barber offered him his choice of Tootsie-Pops... HE TURNED IT DOWN.  He actually chose not to get a Tootsie-Pop, in order to live up to a rule.  Wowza! 

So.  Stuff's okay, today.

Cheers.

We're getting lots of snow. 

Sparkling, fluffy, cold, and needing to be plowed off the driveway and shoveled off the walk, sometimes twice a day. 

It's just so wonderful, until you get sick of it.

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Took Eldest Son to his orthodontist appointment today, in which he received his first "appliance" and I got this nifty little pointy gadget with which I (or Dear Husband) must turn a tiny screw in the appliance once a day for the next month.  Very weird little system, I must say.  E.S was quite the champ in the chair, too; the whole thing went so much better than it might have gone a year ago, I'm flabbergasted. 

He really is doing better.

Going to have his kid party this Saturday, at the local inflatable bounce palace.  They love that!  A place where it's okay to bounce off the walls!  (Good God, a riot of 8-year-old boys hyped up on cake and ice cream, bouncing off the walls.  Somebody save me!)  :-)

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Sold Girls Scout Cookies with Precious Princess for the first time; that was fun.  How it brought me back! 

"On my honor, I will try, to serve God, my country, and mankind, and to live by the Girl Scout Law."

At least, that's how we said it back then; it's a little different now, but recognizable.

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Littlest Brother is starting to seem four now, so much more grown up than three!  He's Just So Cute!!  He's got his little opinions now, and can express them with remarkable acuity.  And he's doing great on the pottying.  Occasionally he has "issues" with unfamiliar pant-fastenings, but never an out-&-out accident where he just forgets or neglects to go.  He has dunked his bottom once, but in general almost doesn't need the potty seat any more either. 

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Last week I saw & approved a proof of my first story to be accepted for publication (the one for $5), which means it really will appear somewhere, sometime in the near future.  That was encouraging! 

I don't have any stories out for consideration at the moment, but I mean to change that in the next week or two.  One of my more recent ones I feel is really promising (made one of my first readers cry, and she's no sissy), I just hafta polish it up a bit more.

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Dear Husband has been a rock, an absolute rock, and I could not ask for a better friend and partner in life. 

Sweet Sixteen coming up in a couple of weeks!  (Hard to believe, that!)  (Seems like just yesterday I was writing up our fifteen-year anniversary...)

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Cheers, all.

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PS, Also lost 8 pounds in the past two weeks!  I guess that "no desserts, no booze thing" is paying off...

Precious Princess:  "What in carnation is that??"

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My mom is here this weekend.  She's sleeping in Littlest Brother's bed, which he graciously offered her while begging her to sleep in his room and not any of the other children's.  He offered to sleep on the floor, in a sleeping bag.  So that's what they did.

That's the backstory.

About 2:00 AM, my mom woke up to hear a little voice whimpering quietly. 

Granny J. (half-awake):  "D., D., -- are you okay?"

Littlest Brother (quietly):  "Actuawwy, I don't wike having my head stuck undoe da bed."

(Well, who does??)

So, she hauled him out by one sleeper'ed foot, and got him settled in his sleeping bag again, and they both went back to sleep. 

The next night we built a temporary levee of pillows and stuffed animals under the edge of the bed so it wouldn't happen again.  Seems to be working well.

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Littlest Brother is discovering the joys of proper pronunciation.  Specifically, he is working on his L's.  He is not pleased with himself when he uses W instead -- although, of course, he still does use W for R.  Well, one thing at a time. 

Sometimes he's confused as to whether a sound he has been used to pronouncing as W, "should" be an L, an R, or in fact a W.

L.B.:  "I tuwned on da LLLight!  LLLet's go down da sLLLide.  LLLet's pLLLay."

Later:  "GLLLanny, LLLet's LLLun a LLLace!  -- I LLLun!"  (would formerly been rendered as, "Gwanny, wet's wun a wace!  -- I won!"

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Precious Princess saw "Beverly Hills Chihuahua" with Granny J yesterday afternoon, and it apparently made a big impression on her.  Since then she has been drawing nothing but Chihuahuas.  She cuts them out and glues them onto popsicle sticks to make puppets of them.  We have a fairly rousing pack of puppet Chihuahuas at this time.

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Eldest Son is doing well, but hasn't said anything especially cute lately.  He's outgrowing that phase, I guess.  He knows it all now, I suppose, so...  Those cute little malapropisms don't pop out of his mouth that often any more. 

Speaking of his mouth -- His dentist has referred him for orthodontia.  (!)  Yes, already.  Now he's got 2 permanent teeth on top and 2 on bottom, and that's enough, I guess.  Apparently he has an overbite that they want to work on while his facial bones are still growing.  If they waited until he was a teenager to tackle that, they wouldn't be able to correct it completely by moving only the teeth.  Whereas if they get cracking on it now, apparently they can coax the bones to match up better.  So, well, I had kind of thought (or hoped) that we were still years away from paying for braces, but I guess not.   

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It seems such a cliche, but they are growing up so fast!  When E.S. was a baby, I thought it would never end.  Now, every time I hug L.B. I think, "I won't always have a little 3-year-old to hug."  And he is so unbelievably huggable!

Why ARE 3-year-olds so gosh-darned CUTE?????  (Well, it's adaptive, for one thing, but still...)

Cheers, all. 

G'night.